Let’s Change Our Thinking!
Today I have decided to change my vocabulary and thinking by eliminating the word “Downsizing” and start using the words “Positive Purging”.
The word “Downsizing” often has a negative connotation to it such as “job loss” and with many of my senior clients I have noticed that they feel they are being forced to get rid of their possessions because they are getting too old. Let’s face it, none of us wants to be forced into feeling we are too old to take care of ourselves or our possessions.
When I work with clients that are needing to purge because their health is not as good as it used to be or because they are moving into a smaller home, I have found that they become much happier with the process of purging when they feel their possessions will make a positive difference in their lives or someone else’s. That is where the change in thinking comes in, which then changes the questions we are asking.
For example, instead of saying, “You do not wear all these clothes anymore”, we could ask, “Do you have any clothes you think another person could use?” Instead of saying, “Dad, you do not need all of these tools any longer, let’s just let them go”. We could ask, “Dad, do you know of someone who is just starting out in a new home that could use some of these tools?” These are only two examples but I hope you can see how it would make someone feel their possessions are going to be useful to someone else and not just simply discarded like old news. Again, this where we have to change our thinking and our words to make someone feel that they themselves and their possessions are valuable.
I have to say the reality may be that not all of their clothes will fit into their new closet or they will not have a good place to store a lot of tools but I believe there is a positive way to to get the same results and that is by changing our words and thoughts into “Positive Purging”.